Every bride-to-be has dreamed about getting married practically since they were little girls. Some brides remember drawing themselves with veils in crayon in preschool. Others remember practicing a new surname on the back of a high school notebook. No matter how you cut the wedding cake, every bride-to-be wants their wedding to be considered happy, special, and sometimes "the best there ever will be." However, the reality is ...dreams do not always translate into reality.
As Upstate New York wedding DJ, Kenny Casanova, I have acted not only as a music provider or song selector, I have often been utilized as a wedding planner, or tip giver. It is very rewarding to walk into the reception hall and see that many of my ideas have been put to good use. Even though I am from Albany, NY, I have found that no matter where the wedding is, the bride and groom are always looking for clues.
Now, whenever I sit down with the bride and groom, I offer whatever I can to help the reception be a success, beyond just song selections. I try to identify what the bride can do to help her happy visions actually come to life. Also having experience in school teaching, I realized that a wedding reception is like a research paper. To make for a great one, research has to be done. But before you do any research, you need to focus on asking the right questions, before you can try to find answers. First off, the bride and groom should identify "The Big Question and then decide on a thesis (an answer) they are both comfortable with.
The only real way to be happy with your reception is if all the people around you are happy. The big question, therefore, then should not be "What do I want?" but rather, "What do I want for my guests?"
By formulating this question every time you plan an aspect of your party, you are planning from the guests' perspective. Planning using the "Big Question" instead of something more selfish and meaningful to only you, will spawn a number of sub-questions that go along with it like, "what do I want my guests to say when they sit down?" and also, "what do I want my guests to say when they walk out the door?"
Demographics is everything. Thinking about who is going to be there before you actually plan, will make your reception "the best wedding of all time."
The music that the DJ is asked to play is only one example. Different people like different things and you have to have a happy medium of what they will like and what you will like too.
Realizing that you are trying to accommodate all of your guests' wishes from a great wedding reception is only the first step. Next, you have to do your research. Your homework is to find what really makes you happy, and also makes every guest attending happy as well. Because wedding receptions happen everywhere every day, it is safe to say thousands of reception options have been created and your answers are out there. You just have to find them.
Using this planning philosophy can work in every area including food, entertainment, music and even the overall look & layout of the decor.
Let's apply this unselfish planning thinking from the guests' perspective to one particular aspect of the reception: The Cake. While you may absolutely love the idea of a classy cream cheese carrot cake, Uncle Charlie may absolutely HATE IT. That doesn't mean you have to be unselfish and not have carrot cake, it only means you have to think outside of the box. What would my guests like to see in a cake? How can I make everyone happy?
In this case, why not try WEDDING CUPCAKES. Have you heard of this? You tier up a wedding cake display with many different types of cup cakes, in displayed in the shape of a traditional wedding cake. Everyone, including you and Uncle Charlie is now happy.
As a Wedding DJ, I tell my clients that if you really want to have your guests look back at attending "the best wedding ever," keep them in mind as much as yourself. Happiness breeds happiness. Playing your favorite songs is important and fine, but remember to always involve some of your guests' favorite songs as well-even when they might not involve the same types of musical tastes. Find the happy medium, it is out there.
- DJ Kenny Casanova
Kenny Casanova - is a professional wedding reception mobile dj and professional wrestling ring announcer from Wynantskill, who frequents the Albany, NY and Troy, NY area.
Our site... www.TheDJservice.com
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