Wedding Receptions 101

Wedding receptions usually take place after the wedding ceremony. This gives guests the opportunity to welcome the newly wedded couple, as a married couple, and it gives everyone a chance to relax and enjoy food, refreshments, and have a good time with family and friends. These events are typically the largest expense and unfortunately, not all couples have the money to pay for an extravagant hall, especially since there’s so much money that goes into every other aspect of getting married.

The thing to remember if you’re looking to plan an inexpensive wedding reception is that the reception can be anywhere, it doesn’t have to be in a location that exclusively hosts weddings. Once you open up your options, you’ll discover that there are so many other viable and exciting reception locations available. In most cases, every city has several venues that can host your dream wedding perfectly.

One idea is to have the reception outdoors. Of course you always have to worry what the weather will bring, but having an outside reception gives you many different places you can explore. For instance, you could have your reception at a city park, and you don’t have to worry about whether there will be enough room for a large reception party. A few big tents to protect the food, drinks, cake, and of course the presents, is all that’s really needed, and if the weather cooperates, it can bring a touch of natural beauty to the ceremony.

If you want to hold it inside, there are also plenty of options, depending on the size of your reception. If you’re holding something with under 150 guests, there are plenty of lodges that have enough space to accommodate you. American Legion halls work great, as they’re usually roomy and spacious, and if someone in your immediate family was a member of the military, you can use their space for next to nothing. Not only that, but if you decide to serve alcohol at your event, they will supply a bartender at a very nominal fee.

Other types of lodges to consider are the “animal” brands, such as moose and elk clubs. Hunting lodges aren’t used year round, and neither are ski lodges – both will usually cut you a deal because they’d rather make some money during the off season than nothing at all.

Another interesting idea for your reception is to rent the space many apartment complexes have for their own receptions and special events. Some are small, holding maybe 30 to 40 people at best, but others are large enough to accommodate an event with at least 100 people. These community centers usually come with full kitchens and spacious rooms for entertainment, you’ll have a place to store, cook and serve food as well as cabinets and drawers for plates, glasses, silverware and alcohol.

Finally, why not hold the reception right in the church where you get married? Many churches have multiple rooms that they’ll rent out for many different reasons, and you might be able to get an inclusive rate by holding it in the same place. Some churches even offer their facilities free of charge.

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Wedding Day Details Not To Miss~Games For The Kids

A Game Plan For the Kids

Why? Even if you love children, you won't want them disrupting the wedding ceremony or reception. Have a plan to keep little ones at their best.

How to do it? At the ceremony, have an usher hand out coloring books and crayons. At mealtime, seat little ones with their parents so they'll be in top form while eating. If lots of kids will be attending, setting up a nearby room with games, craft supplies, and DVDs guarantees that they'll have a good time during the reception (as will their eternally grateful parents).

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Guide to the Jewish Wedding

A traditional Jewish wedding is full of meaningful rituals, symbolizing the beauty of the relationship of husband and wife,
as well as their obligations to each other and to the Jewish people.

The following guide explains the beauty and joy of these the Jewish wedding traditions.

The Wedding Day

The dawning wedding day heralds the happiest and holiest day of one's life. This day is considered a personal Yom Kippur for the chatan (Hebrew for groom) and kallah (bride), for on this day all their past mistakes are forgiven as they merge into a new, complete soul.

As on Yom Kippur, both the chatan and kallah fast (in this case, from dawn until after the completion of the marriage ceremony). And at the ceremony, the chatan wears a kittel, the traditional white robe worn on Yom Kippur.

Kabbalat Panim

It is customary for the chatan and kallah not to see each other for one week preceding the wedding. This increases the anticipation and excitement of the event. Therefore, prior to the wedding ceremony, the chatan and kallah greet guests separately. This is called "Kabbalat Panim."

Jewish tradition likens the couple to a queen and king. The kallah will be seated on a "throne" to receive her guests, while the chatan is surrounded by guests who sing and toast him.

At this time there is an Ashkenazi tradition for the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom to stand together and break a plate. The reason is to show the seriousness of the commitment -- just as a plate can never be fully repaired, so too a broken relationship can never be fully repaired.

Badeken

Next comes the badeken, the veiling of the kallah by the chatan. The veil symbolizes the idea of modesty and conveys the lesson that however attractive physical appearances may be, the soul and character are paramount. It is reminiscent of Rebecca covering her face before marrying Isaac (Genesis ch. 29).

The Ashkenazi custom is that the chatan, accompanied by family and friends, proceeds to where the kallah is seated and places the veil over her face. This signals the groom's commitment to clothe and protect his wife.

Chuppah

The wedding ceremony takes place under the chuppah (canopy), a symbol of the home that the new couple will build together. It is open on all sides, just as Abraham and Sarah had their tent open all sides to welcome people in unconditional hospitality.

The Ashkenazi custom is to have the chuppah ceremony outside under the stars, as a sign of the blessing given by God to the patriarch Abraham, that his children shall be "as the stars of the heavens"(Genesis 15:5). Sefardim generally have the chuppah indoors.

The Ashkenazi custom is that the chatan and kallah wear no jewelry under the chuppah (marriage canopy). Their mutual commitment is based on who they are as people, not on any material possessions.

The chatan, followed by the kallah, are usually escorted to the chuppah by their respective sets of parents.

Under the chuppah, the Ashkenazi custom is that the kallah circles the chatan seven times. Just as the world was built in seven days, the kallah is figuratively building the walls of the couple's new world together. The number seven also symbolizes the wholeness and completeness that they cannot attain separately.

The kallah then settles at the chatan's right-hand side.

[At this point, the Sefardic custom is that the chatan says the blessing She'hecheyanu over a new tallit, and has in mind that the blessing also goes on the marriage. The tallit is then held by four young men over the head of the chatan and kallah.]

Blessings of Betrothal (Kiddushin)

Two cups of wine are used in the wedding ceremony. The first cup accompanies the betrothal blessings, recited by the rabbi. After these are recited, the couple drinks from the cup.

Wine, a symbol of joy in Jewish tradition, is associated with Kiddush, the sanctification prayer recited on Shabbat and festivals. Marriage, called Kiddushin, is the sanctification of a man and woman to each other.

Giving of the Ring

In Jewish law, a marriage becomes official when the chatan gives an object of value to the kallah. This is traditionally done with a ring. The ring should be made of plain gold, without blemishes or ornamentation (e.g. stones) -- just as it is hoped that the marriage will be one of simple beauty.

The chatan now takes the wedding ring in his hand, and in clear view of two witnesses, declares to the kallah, "Behold, you are betrothed unto me with this ring, according to the law of Moses and Israel." He then places the ring on the forefinger of the bride's right hand. According to Jewish law, this is the central moment of the wedding ceremony, and at this point the couple is fully married.

If the kallah also wants to give a ring to the chatan, this is only done afterwards, not under the chuppah. This is to prevent confusion as to what constitutes the actual marriage, as prescribed by the Torah.

Ketubah (Marriage Contract)

Now comes the reading of the ketubah (marriage contract) in the original Aramaic text. The ketubah outlines the chatan's various responsibilities -- to provide his wife with food, shelter and clothing, and to be attentive to her emotional needs. Protecting the rights of a Jewish wife is so important that the marriage may not be solemnized until the contract has been completed.

The document is signed by two witnesses, and has the standing of a legally binding agreement. The ketubah is the property of the kallah and she must have access to it throughout their marriage. It is often written amidst beautiful artwork, to be framed and displayed in the home.

The reading of the ketubah acts as a break between the first part of the ceremony -- Kiddushin ("betrothal"), and the latter part -- Nissuin ("marriage").

The Seven Blessings

The Seven Blessings (Sheva Brachot) are now recited over the second cup of wine. The theme of these blessings links the chatan and kallah to our faith in God as Creator of the world, Bestower of joy and love, and the ultimate Redeemer of our people.

These blessings are recited by the rabbi or other people that the families wish to honor.

At the conclusion of the seven blessings, the chatan and kallah again drink some of the wine.

Breaking the Glass

A glass is now placed on the floor, and the chatan shatters it with his foot. This serves as an expression of sadness at the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem, and identifies the couple with the spiritual and national destiny of the Jewish people. A Jew, even at the moment of greatest rejoicing, is mindful of the Psalmist's injunction to "set Jerusalem above my highest joy."

In jest, some explain that this is the last time the groom gets to "put his foot down."

(In Israel, the Ashkenazi custom is that the glass is broken earlier, prior to the reading of the ketubah. Sefardim always break the glass at the end of the ceremony, even in Israel.)

This marks the conclusion of the ceremony. With shouts of "Mazel Tov," the chatan and kallah are then given an enthusiastic reception from the guests as they leave the chuppah together.

Yichud

The couple is then escorted to a private "yichud room" and left alone for a few minutes. These moments of seclusion signify their new status of living together as husband and wife.

Since the couple has been fasting since the morning, at this point they will also have something to eat.

[Sefardim do not have the custom of the yichud room; the chatan and kallah immediately proceed to the wedding hall after the chuppah ceremony.]

The Festive Meal (Seudah)

It is a mitzvah for guests to bring simcha (joy) to the chatan and the kallah on their wedding day. There is much music and dancing as the guests celebrate with the new couple; some guests entertain with feats of juggling and acrobatics.

After the meal, Birkat Hamazon (Grace After Meals) is recited, and the Sheva Brachot are repeated.

During the week following the wedding, it is customary for friends and relatives to host festive meals in honor of the chatan and kallah. This is called the week of Sheva Brachot, in reference to the blessings said at the conclusion of each of these festive meals.

If both the bride and groom are marrying for the second time, sheva brachot are recited only on the night of the wedding. The last bracha, Asher Bara, can be recited for three days.

What a beautiful ceremony and celebration! Mazel tov!

Wedding Cake Alternatives

Cakes are great, but what are your options if you want to serve something different at your ceremony? We think it’s a fabulous idea to have your wedding desserts reflect your personal taste!

If you’re looking for a little inspiration for how to dress up an ice cream sundae or

candied apples, check out these elegant photos for a few ideas.

There are so many options when choosing a desert for your wedding reception.

Cake is always a safe bet, however a fun and surprising dessert can give your event a little touch of the unexpected, and something that your guests will always remember.

The History of Bridal Veils

Bridal veils have a rich and rumored history. They are believed to date back as far as the Roman Empire, where brides were covered with bright red and yellow wedding bridal veils to protect them from evil spirits that might whisk them away before entering the sage union with their husband. The fabric was meant to completely hide the beauty from the malicious intent of bad spirits.

Headpieces have been used greatly in outdoor and beach weddings due to their simple and elegant feel. In an Eastern Orthodox wedding, the headpieces are blessed and exchanged three times. after this ceremonial exchange, the couple is pronounced married. Bridal headpieces and veils are also traditional in Finnish weddings. After the union ceremony, there is a dance where the bride places her headpiece or wedding veil on one of the bridesmaids. Like the Western tradition of throwing the bouquet, this Finnish practice means that the designated bridesmaid will be the next to marry.

Some say that the tradition of donning wedding bridal veils dates back to the Bible. In the story of Jacob, in the Old Testament, his father-in-law, Laban, tricks Jacob into marrying the wrong woman. Because of the heavily masked veil that was not raised until after the union was complete, Jacob married the older and homelier Leah instead of the young and beautiful Rachel. Rachel was his one true love, and the deceit resulted in Jacob eventually having both as his wives. They story also resulted in the Jewish practice where a groom lowers the veil before the ceremony and lifts the veil before the kiss.